Another tool from Thich Nhat Hanh.


Please Note:

I suggest editing Thich Nhat Hanh's phrasing just a bit, to add a little NVC:

Excerpted from Peace Treaty:

Example of a verbal notification

"My dear friend, what you said (did) this morning (afternoon) made me very angry. I suffered very much and I want you to know it. I hope that by Friday evening both of us will have had a chance to look deeply into this matter."

Suggested Edit:

Instead of “you made me feel”, clarify (and take ownership for your feelings: “When this happened, I felt ...”

And maybe that's just too much semantics for you, I understand.  I think intention is the most important element when we are communicating... AND the words do affect people.  I notice my awareness is heightened when I attempt to avoid habitual phrases, and it's made a difference in my relationships.


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