I suggest editing Thich Nhat Hanh's phrasing just a bit, to add a little NVC:
Excerpted from Peace Treaty:
Example of a verbal notification
"My dear friend, what you said (did) this morning (afternoon) made me very angry. I suffered very much and I want you to know it. I hope that by Friday evening both of us will have had a chance to look deeply into this matter."
Instead of “you made me feel”, clarify (and take ownership for your feelings: “When this happened, I felt ...”
And maybe that's just too much semantics for you, I understand. I think intention is the most important element when we are communicating... AND the words do affect people. I notice my awareness is heightened when I attempt to avoid habitual phrases, and it's made a difference in my relationships.