Often we over-think things, trying to think our way out of uncomfortable situations. Instead, try leaning in and discovering what it is you are feeling, and maybe even what's holding you back. The following flowers I find helpful in calming the emotional upheavals that occur in relationship struggles:


Beech. The “Tolerance” flower. If you are feeling intolerant of another, this may be the flower for you.


Water Violet. If you are avoiding connection with others, and feel aloof and possibly lonely (even though your treasure your solitude) Water Violet can smooth the path to connection with others.


Agrimony. If you hide behind a cheerful face, even when you feel miserable. Agrimony can loosen the blocks to expressing your genuine feelings.


Gentian. If you are feeling slightly discouraged due to setbacks or unexpected events. I find Gentian helpful when I can't seem to access my Communication Toolkit as well as I would like.


Rock Water. This can be helpful when learning a new tool such as NVC, (which is in affect learning a new language) if you are a person who loves to stick to the rules. If you prioritize discipline, but allow your priority of that to take you to an extreme, where you end up blocking communication, Rock Water can balance that aspect of your personality.


Star of Bethlehem. This flower comforts grief, fright and shock. Sometimes relationships bring these elements up, paralyzing communication.


Vine. Sometimes, especially if we are in a leadership role, we can be more committed to doing things the “right way” (usually “our way”) than to keeping communication in flow. Vine can alleviate this tendency.


Rescue Remedy. This is a pre-made formula of 5 Bach Flower essences (including Star of Bethlehem and Impatiens.) It's useful for many things, and can be handy in calming your nerves before, during or after a tense interaction.


Impatiens. Are you chomping at the bit to “just get on with it already!”? Impatiens cultivates Patience.


Bach flowers are readily available at natural food stores, are easy to administer and have no side affects. You can take them even if you are taking other medications.


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